A Powerful Online Challenge – Exclusively For Men

#HardcoreEmbodiment is a series of 6 group live calls over the course of 6 weeks, as well as your personal practice.

Those live calls will be happening via zoom. They include a systematic series of next level teachings around porn as well as a direct somatic practice sequence. #HardcoreEmbodiment aims at setting you free in terms of porn on all levels and offers a fundamentally new perspective on an old issue.

#HardcoreEmbodiment offers 5 keys:

#1 | Gaining a fundamentally new understanding of porn (and why you might consume it).

#2 | Un-learning shame and guilt around porn and sexual fantasies.

#3 | Re-awakening your innate sexual sensibility and real sexual intensity.

#4 | Stopping the loss of energy through un-orgasmic ejaculation.

#5 | Re-gaining TRUE inner freedom and choice around porn.

#HardcoreEmbodiment is for you if …

  • you invest more time and energy into porn than you would like to invest
  • porn distorts your sexual fantasies towards brutality
  • your consumption of porn developed a negative spiral that you wish to stop
  • you are worried about your image of women
  • you feel trapped in a loop of frustration and secrets
  • porn connects your sexuality to self-doubt and shame
  • you are curious about a totally new perspective on porn
  • you feel like joining a world premiere, and connecting with other men about a super powerful shadow aspect of our culture!

You’ll need:

  • an undisturbed space where you can watch porn and where you feel safe and undisturbed
  • access to minimum 2 hrs of porn material that works for you. Best will be clips and compilations that last at least for 10 minutes, so that you are NOT busy with switching between the scenes
  • your commitment to invest 20 minutes every second day in your physical and sexual practice for the duration of  #HardcoreEmbodiment
  • curiosity for REAL change…
  • a HELL YES for true sexual research!


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All calls will be recorded. You can easily access the recording if you miss the live date!!.

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#HardcoreEmbodiment is a super safe online space exclusively for you: totally confidential, and you are welcome to open up as much as you want.

However: Porn is a sensitive topic we tend to stay private with. You are welcome to participate completely anonymous, if that feels safer for you.

Here is how you can participate anonymously:
Register with a fantasy name and without a profile photo on our online platform Kajabi. If you want to participate live in zoom calls, anonymize your name, switch off the camera, and communicate only via chat.

What does Ilan Stephani do with these recordings?

Ilan records the Live Calls for 2 reasons:

#1 – in order to make them accessbible to you as the recording
#2 – in order to publish short clips of the material in her social media, etc.
IMPORTANT NOTE: The published clips will under NO circumstances contain anything other then Ilan in picture and sound. No matter what you express during a live call, Ilan will share NOTHING publicly from #HarcoreEmbodiment that contains your name, voice, picture or the wording of your question.

*»Porn« is a collective term. Not only men are watching porn, as well as not only straight men. But heterosexual mainstream porn has by far the biggest market share concerning production, money and consumerism.
To find a way through this complexity, I will focus #HardcoreEmbodiment on heterosexual mainstream porn.
If you can not identify with this kind of sexuality and gender, you are invited to translate the tools of #HardcoreEmbodiment into your own perspective. Please be prepared that my language might address the topics in a simplified way, without meeting the actual sexual diversity.



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349,00 € *

*Prices do not include sales tax (VAT). They will be added at checkout processed through Digistore24.

NOTE: We offer a 60 Day Money Back Guarantee through Digistore24.
To qualify for a refund you must have completely watched and implemented your course content. If you’re still not happy with your purchase we will refund you the full amount within 60 days from purchase.


You will keep access to the live call recordings for 3 months after the end of #HardcoreEmbodiment. There will be no option for downloading the material, in order to make our co-created space extra safe.


Bestselling Author & Somatic Mystic

Ilan Stephani is a somatic mystic, an abundant source of inspiration, and a powerful and loving question mark for our current cultural paradigms. Her points of view on burning topics of this era are challenging, ever-surprising and provocative, turning our belief systems upside down. She is dedicated to the fields of embodiment, trauma, sexuality, health and mysticism in order to support individual and collective change.

With her German bestseller »Skin and Games – What Sexwork Taught Me About Love« – an analysis about her prostitution in the context of society, Ilan gained nation-wide attention in 2017 and is now available in English as Kindle eBook here. 


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