»We are born as ecstatic beings and yet spend most of our time in our heads.«

»There is no way to the body. The body is the way.«


Ilan Stephani is a Berlin-based bestselling author and researcher about how to shift collective paradigms, un-learn cultural conditioning and gain back our natural orgasmic aliveness.

She walks the talk with endless curiosity, humor and ongoing research in the fields of Embodiment | Sexuality | Trauma | Health | Mysticism.

Ilan gained nation-wide attention with her bestselling book »Skin and Games – What Sexwork Taught Me About Love«. Ilan teaches in both German and English, and offers online courses, in-person retreats and year trainings.



  • Ongoing research in elements of tantra and taoism, trauma healing, somatic mysticism, touch, postural work, yoga, movement, kundalini, spirituality, bio-electricity, human potential and the nervous system
  • Bestselling author of the book »Lieb und Teuer – Was ich im Puff über das Leben gelernt habe« (English title: »Skin and Games – What Sexwork Taught Me About Love«) – radically analyzing Ilan’s experience of prostitution as the mirror of society – published in Germany on October 12, 2017 at Ecowin Verlag.